I. Say. "Uncle."
At the start of this thing, I had excellent intentions. I wanted to help my children become better people. Better listeners, better helpers, better friends. I wanted my children to learn lessons about "earning" privileges. I wanted them to see the connection between their behavior and the outcome.
I attempted to do this in a primarily positive way and enlisted the help of my sister, who regularly acts as my on-call behavior specialist. Her ideas were excellent but somewhere in the follow through I got lost.